Abraço Amigo

"Uma resposta honesta é como o abraço apertado de um amigo" - Provérbios 24:26 (A Mensagem)

"An honest answer  is like a warm hug." - Proverbs 24:26 (The Message)

The Power of a Hug - Friendships - ReachOut.com

The Hugging Judge

The Hugging Judge

Don't bug me! Hug me! - Bumper Sticker

Lee Shapiro is a retired judge. He is also one of the most genuinely loving people we know. At one point in his career, Lee realized that love is the greatest power there is. As a result, Lee became a hugger. He began offering everybody a hug. His colleagues dubbed him "the hugging judge" (as opposed to the hanging judge, we suppose). The bumper sticker on his car reads, "Don't bug me! Hug me!"

About six years ago Lee created what he calls his Hugger Kit. On the outside it reads "A heart for a hug." The inside contains thirty little red embossed hearts with stickum on the back. Lee will take out his Hugger Kit, go around to people and offer them a little red heart in exchange for a hug.

Lee has become so well known for this that he is often invited to keynote conferences and conventions, where he shares his message of unconditional love. At a conference in San Francisco, the local news media challenged him by saying, "It is easy to give out hugs here in the conference to people who self-selected to be here. But this would never work in the real world."

They challenged Lee to give away some hugs on the streets of San Francisco. Followed by a television crew from the local news station, Lee went out onto the street. First, he approached a woman walking by. "Hi, I'm Lee Shapiro, the hugging judge. I'm giving out these hearts in exchange for a hug." "Sure," she replied. "Too easy", challenged the local commentator. Lee looked around. He saw a meter maid who was being given a hard time by the owner of a BMW to whom she was giving a ticket. He marched up to her, camera crew in tow, and said, "You look like you could use a hug. I'm the hugging judge and I'm offering you one." She accepted. The television commentator threw down one final challenge. "Look, here comes a bus. San Francisco bus drivers are the toughest, crabbiest, meanest people in the whole town. Let's see you get him to hug you." Lee took the challenge. As the bus pulled up to the curb, Lee said, "Hi, I'm Lee Shapiro, the hugging judge. This has got to be one of the most stressful jobs in the whole world.

I'm offering hugs to people today to lighten the load a little. Would you like one?" The six-foot-two, 230-pound bus driver got out of his seat, stepped down and said, "Why not?" Lee hugged him, gave him a heart and waved goodbye as the bus pulled out. The TV crew was speechless. Finally, the commentator said, "I have to admit, I'm very impressed."

One day Lee's friend Nancy Johnston showed up on his doorstep. Nancy is a professional clown and she was wearing her clown costume, makeup and all. "Lee, grab a bunch of your Hugger Kits and let's go out to the home for the disabled."

When they arrived at the home, they started giving out balloon hats, hearts and hugs to the patients. Lee was uncomfortable. He had never before hugged people who were terminally ill, severely retarded, or quadraplegic. It was definitely a stretch. But after a while it became easier with Nancy and Lee acquiring an entourage of doctors, nurses and orderlies who followed them from ward to ward.

After several hours they entered the last ward. These were 34 of the worst cases Lee had seen in his life. The feeling was so grim it took his heart away. But out of their commitment to share their love and to make a difference, Nancy and Lee started working their way around the room followed by the entourage of medical staff, all of whom by now had hearts on their collars and balloon hats on their heads.

Finally, Lee came to the last person, Leonard. Leonard was wearing a big white bib which he was drooling on. Lee looked at Leonard dribbling onto his bib and said, "Let's go, Nancy, there's no way we can get through to this person." Nancy replied, "C'mon, Lee. He's a fellow human being, too, isn't he?" Then she placed a funny balloon hat on his head. Lee took one of his little red hearts and placed it on Leonard's bib. He took a deep breath, leaned down and gave Leonard a hug.

All of a sudden Leonard began to squeal, "Eeeeehh! Eeeeeehh!" Some of the other patients in the room began to clang things together. Lee turned to the staff for some sort of explanation only to find that every doctor, nurse, and orderly was crying. Lee asked the head nurse, "What's going on?"

Lee will never forget what she said: "This is the first time in 23 years we've ever seen Leonard smile."

How simple it is to make a difference in the lives of others.

Jack Canfield and Mark V. Hansen

How to Hug

We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth. —Virginia Satir, family therapist

Hugging may sound like the simplest thing on earth, but it will help to keep a few things in mind. Non-hugs are no good. In his book Caring, Feeling, Touching, Dr Sidney Simon describes five non-hugs:

1. The A-frame hug, in which nothing but the huggers' heads touch.
2. The half-hug, where the huggers' upper bodies touch—while the other half twists away.
3. The chest-to-chest burp, in which the huggers pat each other on the back, defusing the physical contact by treating each other like infants being burped.
4. The wallet-rub, in which two people stand side-by-side and touch hips.
5. The jock-twirl, in which the hugger, who is stronger or bigger, lifts the other person off the ground and twirls him.

The real thing, the full body hug, touches all the bases. Dr Simon describes it like this: "The two people coming together take time to really look at each other. There is no evasion or ignoring that they are about to hug... You try as hard as you can to personalize and customize each hug you give... With a full body hug there is a sense of complete giving and fearless. Communication, one uncomplicated by words.

"It is the attitude that is important," says Vikas Malkani. "It need not be a full, frontal hug. It could be sideways. Generally, hug only friends and people you know."

"Many people do not like their personal space to be invaded. Still others may feel too vulnerable at times to like to be touched," warns Dr Bhagat.

The stereotype of men being less demonstrative than women in their love and affection is by and large true. "But men are more open to hugging after a few drinks at parties," says Pommi Malhotra. From her experience she says that even the tough ones respond to hugging.

Many people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable when hugged, but Malkani's advice is to still go at it because they are bound to feel good afterwards and may even feel grateful to you. When you feel the need to be hugged, ask for one. Any place is good enough for hugging: home, office, school, church, a party, a conference. You may, however, feel uncomfortable hugging, for example, at work. In that case, prefer a more intimate environment, such as at home with friends or at a party.

Life Positive November 1996

O MELHOR LUGAR DO MUNDO

“E então? Somando-se os prós e os contras, as boas e más opções, onde é O MELHOR LUGAR DO MUNDO afinal?

Meu palpite: DENTRO DE UM ABRAÇO.

Que lugar melhor para uma criança, para um idoso, para uma mulher apaixonada, para um adolescente com medo, para um doente, para alguém solitário? Dentro de um abraço é sempre quente, é sempre seguro. Dentro de um abraço não se ouve o tic-tac dos relógios e, se faltar luz, tanto melhor. TUDO O QUE VOCÊ PENSA E SOFRE DENTRO DE UM ABRAÇO SE DISSOLVE.

Que lugar melhor para um recém-nascido, para um recém-chegado, para um recém-demitido, para um recém-contratado? Dentro de um abraço nenhuma situação é incerta, o futuro não amedronta, estacionamos confortavelmente em meio ao paraíso.”

Martha Medeiros

TERAPIA DO ABRAÇO

O que faz você, por exemplo, quando está com dor de cabeça? Ou quando está chateado?

Será que existe algum remédio para aliviar a maioria dos problemas físicos e emocionais?

Pois é, durante muito tempo estivemos a procura de alguma coisa que nos rejuvenescesse, que prolongasse o nosso bom humor, que nos protegesse contra as doenças, que curasse nossa depressão, que nos aliviasse de nosso estresse, que nos fizesse chegar próximo daqueles com quem brigamos.
Sim, alguma coisa que fortalecesse nossos laços  e que inclusive nos ajudasse a adormecer tranquilos.

Encontramos!

O remédio havia sido descoberto e já estava a nossa disposição.
E continua ao alcance de nossas mãos.
O mais impressionante de tudo é que, ainda por cima, não nos custa nada. Aliás, custa sim, custa um pouco de vontade de perdoar.

É O ABRAÇO!

O abraço é milagroso.
É medicina realmente muito forte.
O abraço como sinal de afetividade, de carinho e de perdão pode nos ajudar a viver mais tempo, proteger-nos contra doenças, curar a depressão e fortificar os laços  familiares.

O abraço é excelente tônico!

Hoje sabemos que a pessoa deprimida é bem mais suscetível a doenças.
O abraço diminui a depressão e revigora o sistema imunológico da pessoa. O abraço injeta nova vida nos corpos cansados e fatigados, e a pessoa abraçada se sente muito mais jovem e vibrante.

O abraço aumenta significativamente a hemoglobina na pessoa tocada.

Para lembrar, hemoglobina é aquela parte do sangue que transporta o oxigênio para os órgãos mais vitais do nosso corpo, inclusive o cérebro e o coração.

O uso regular do abraço, por isso tudo, prolonga a vida, sara a depressão e estimula a vontade de viver, crescer e progredir.

Você sabe quantos abraços você precisa dar por dia?

Oito... para manter-se vivo.

E o mais bonito, é que este remédio não tem contraindicações e não há maneira de dá-lo sem recebê-lo de volta!

Um abraço pra você!!!

Abraços Terapêuticos : Mensagem de Amor

As verdades sobre os abraços:
Não existe um mau abraço, somente os bons e os ótimos abraços.
Abraços são: dietéticos e não causam câncer ou cáries…
Abraços são totalmente naturais, sem preservativos, ingredientes artificiais ou pesticidas…
Abraços são: livres de colesterol, adoçados naturalmente, 100% disponíveis na natureza e são totalmente recicláveis…
Abraços são fáceis de transportar, não necessitam baterias, sintonização ou raio-X…
Abraços são isentos de impostos, totalmente regeneráveis e auto-eficientes em matéria de energia…
Abraços são seguros em qualquer tipo de clima… na verdade, abraços são especialmente aconselháveis para dias frios e chuvosos…
Abraços são excepcionalmente efetivos no tratamento de problemas como: os pesadelos ou a depressão da segunda-feira…

Nunca deixe para amanhã se você pode abraçar alguém hoje, porque quando você dá um abraço em alguém, no mesmo instante você recebe um de volta.

Um abraço especial para você!!!

Quotes on Hugs

"A hug is worth a thousand words."  ~Author Unknown



"If you're angry at a loved one, hug that person.  And mean it.  You may not want to hug - which is all the more reason to do so.  It's hard to stay angry when someone shows they love you, and that's precisely what happens when we hug each other."  ~Walter Anderson, The Confidence Course, 1997


"Hugging has no unpleasant side effects and is all natural.  There are no batteries to replace, it's inflation-proof and non-fattening with no monthly payments.  It's non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable. " ~Author Unknown


"A hug is like a bandage to a hurting wound."  ~Author Unknown


"Never wait until tomorrow to hug someone you could hug today, because when you give one, you get one right back your way." ~Author Unknown


"Sometimes it's better to put love into hugs than to put it into words."  ~Author Unknown


"A hug is the shortest distance between friends."  ~Author Unknown

O que é Abraçar?

Hoje...

Abraço de Deus...

Abraços Marcantes na Bíblia

Esaú e Jacó - Reconciliação

“Quando Jacó viu que Esaú vinha chegando com os seus quatrocentos homens, dividiu os seus filhos em grupos, que ficaram com Léia, com Raquel e com as duas escravas. As escravas e os seus filhos ficaram na frente, depois Léia com os seus filhos e por último Raquel e José. Depois Jacó passou e ficou na frente; sete vezes ele se ajoelhou e encostou o rosto no chão, até que chegou perto de Esaú. Porém Esaú saiu correndo ao encontro de Jacó e o abraçou; ele pôs os braços em volta do seu pescoço e o beijou. E os dois choraram.” (Gênesis 33:1-4 -NTLH)

Jacó e José – Reencontro

“Jacó mandou que Judá fosse na frente para pedir a José que viesse encontrá-los em Gosém. Quando eles chegaram, José mandou aprontar o seu carro e foi para Gosém a fim de se encontrar com o pai. Quando se encontraram, José o abraçou e chorou abraçado com ele por muito tempo.” (Gênesis 46:28-29 - NTLH)

O Filho Perdido – Reencontro e Perdão

“Então saiu dali e voltou para a casa do pai.

– Quando o rapaz ainda estava longe de casa, o pai o avistou. E, com muita pena do filho, correu, e o abraçou, e beijou. E o filho disse: “Pai, pequei contra Deus e contra o senhor e não mereço mais ser chamado de seu filho!”

Mas o pai ordenou aos empregados: “Depressa! Tragam a melhor roupa e vistam nele. Ponham um anel no dedo dele e sandálias nos seus pés. Também tragam e matem o bezerro gordo. Vamos começar a festejar porque este meu filho estava morto e viveu de novo; estava perdido e foi achado.”

– E começaram a festa. (Lucas 15:20-24- NTLH)